When we talk about motherhood, we always say it is so wonderful to be a parent, there’s no grater gift in life than the birth of your child, his/her hug is the most precious in the world, the kiss of your kid can turn any bad day in a better one, so on and so forth. Although everything is so true, we rarely talk about the hardships of being a parent. Sometimes, because we feel bad to complain, because we are afraid of what others might think of us, because we are afraid to face our own feelings, because, because, because.
So, as a mom myself, I decided to tell you my story, the truth about motherhood, the frustrations, the beauty, the hard times, the hard feelings, the things you lose, the things you gain, the compromises. So, future moms, I know you really want a kid, and I know you will love it to the moon and back, but I’ll tell you now, there will be moments when it will be hard to admit it even to yourself that your life would’ve been easier without him/her.
My mom never told me how hard it will be until I gave birth. I asked her a while ago, why didn’t she explain anything to me? Her response: “If I would have told you the whole truth, you might not wanted to have a child”. Well, I don’t agree with her, as I feel that the more you know, the more prepared you are, and when you prepare for the worst, the easier it will seem.
So, dears, here it is, motherhood – as it really is or at least, how it was and how it is for me.
Before we begin, I will tell you 3 undeniable truths:
- You won’t love anyone in this whole entire world as much as you love your child
- It changes your life forever
- It’s a tough “job” that you’ll want to do your best at, and it’s paid with hugs and kisses
Chapter 1. Getting pregnant is sometimes easy, but sometimes…
Well, it sounds simple, isn’t it? 🙂 Kiss, kiss, bang, bang – here comes the child. For many, it actually is. I find it even more interesting, that when you don’t really want a child, the easier she/he comes. The more pressure you put on yourself, the harder it seems.
Now, when you really want to have a child, I don’t know why, but you kind of have to work hard for it, and by work, I mean exactly what you’re thinking of: kiss, kiss, bang, bang. Sounds fun, no? Surprisingly, the fun disappears after 2-3 days of doing it, no matter if you feel tired, you’re sick etc. Why the rush you might think? Well, we only have about a few days per month of fertility. You don’t score then, you’ll have to wait for another month.
I was 28 when we decided we wanted a child. It took about 10 months to get pregnant, while I made many ovulating tests, pregnancy tests and medical tests, to make sure I can get pregnant. It seems like stress and working hard for your job is not the best friend of pregnancy, it’s actually now one of the main reasons more women find it hard to get pregnant. You don’t realise how hard your job affects you, until your doctor says loud and clear: “Do something to relax, sleep more or else it will be hard to get pregnant. Your body is not functioning as it should, but there’s nothing else wrong with you”. At that point, it seemed impossible to do that. 6 months later, I decided to take a break from my job. Every month that passed by without getting pregnant got me feeling more frustrated, unhappy and really mad on my body for deceiving me. 3 months after quitting my job, I was pregnant :).
Taking a break from your job is quite a big step, but you still have to kiss, kiss – bang, bang at the right time, in the right way, to increase your chances. I decided that I won’t do any more ovulation tests, but I will calculate my fertile period and do a bang-bang marathon during that period. 🙂 As my doctor advice me to, you practically have to do it every day, for about a week, during your fertile period, because every body is different, ovulation is different, and like that you should not miss the “date”. Well, it worked!
So, how do I get pregnant? Be sure you’re healthy, relax & sleep more, less stress and bang-bang marathon in your fertile week.
See you at Chapter 2,
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